Why being ‘a little more social’ makes us happier than we expect, with Nicholas Epley, PhD

People consistently underestimate the happiness and connection gained from social interactions due to misplaced pessimism and an over-focus on personal competence. Dr. Nicholas Epley, a behavioral scientist at the University of Chicago, explains that humans are inherently social, yet we frequently avoid strangers and deep conversations because we wrongly assume they will be awkward or unwelcome. Research demonstrates that social interactions are highly dynamic and reciprocal; when individuals reach out, others typically respond with warmth, creating a positive feedback loop. While modern technology and digital communication allow for convenience, they often lack the emotional cues of live vocal interaction, which is essential for building genuine bonds. Overcoming this reluctance to engage—whether through small talk or meaningful dialogue—significantly boosts mood and life satisfaction, as evidenced by large-scale experimental data and personal experiences.