231. Secret Signals: Why We Rarely Say Exactly What We Mean

In this episode of the Think Fast Talk Smart podcast, Matt Abrahams interviews Steven Pinker about the nuances of indirect communication and common knowledge. They discuss why people often hint rather than directly stating their intentions, exploring the concept of common knowledge and its impact on social relationships. Pinker explains how indirectness helps maintain relationships by avoiding the creation of undeniable common knowledge. The conversation further delves into how individuals learn appropriate levels of indirectness, cultural variations in communication styles, and the necessity of "rational hypocrisy" in social interactions. Pinker also shares insights on clarity, grace, and the use of metaphors in effective communication, emphasizing the importance of empathy and understanding the audience's perspective. Finally, they touch on the strategic use of cursing and the key ingredients for successful communication.